How To Enjoy Life

If every day feels like a gigantic burden on your shoulders, then you probably aren’t leading an enjoyable life. Pragmatic and content people would decipher such a lifestyle as utterly pointless. You certainly haven’t been born to suffer. No doubt, pain and catastrophes are inevitable, but when you inflict it upon yourself, you are epitomizing ludicrousness! There’s absolutely nothing wrong in indulging in a few pleasurable activities from time to time. In fact, bliss is the very essence of our existence. If we embark on a journey devoid of even an iota of ecstasy, it’s time we compete with robots and computers for dexterity and mechanical proficiency. What ever happened to spontaneity and the perks of succumbing to our heart’s unrelenting desires? Untangle yourself from the brutal bondages of misery and live your life to the fullest. Sooner or later, you are going to harbor bitter regrets and narrow down the potential to enjoy your life! Keep a strong positive attitude and you will be amazed at how you can bypass almost every calamity with elegance. Traverse down this page and inch closer to living an enjoyable life!



Ways To Enjoy Life
Bucket List
Haven’t you always made a mental note of a bunch of things you had to do before you die? Whether it is riding a horse, go kayaking or visiting the Taj Mahal, you certainly do not want to bid adieu to the world without crossing them off your “bucket list”. A bucket list may contain 100 or even 1000 things you want to achieve before the end! Every time you finish completing the said dream or are in the process of completing it, you are simultaneously enjoying life like you never have before!
Give!
Charity is extremely therapeutic and self-rewarding. This obviously doesn’t imply that the sole motive behind the act of charity is to feel good about yourself, but do concede the fact that offering a helping hand to those in dire need is priceless! If you cannot donate or finance the poor, there are innumerable ways by which you can be of indispensable assistance. Teach them, spend quality time with them and make them happy! Give and you shall receive!
Money Isn’t Everything
A materialistic lifestyle is a signal for disaster. When you live by your material possessions and just cannot let go, you are in trouble! It goes without saying that money is a pivotal part of life but pay heed to the anthem that “Money Can’t Buy Love”. Money is essential for survival but an insatiable thirst for money breeds the ground for avarice and ultimately, an unhappy life. We are all mortals and an undying quest to amass all the money in the world is absolutely futile. If you lose money, don’t let doomsday befall upon you. You will see sunshine again. Never let the lures of wealth and currency hypnotize you. Excess money, undoubtedly, isn’t the key to an enjoyable life.   
Quit When Your Heart Beseeches You To
Why should you be stuck with something you wholeheartedly detest? Make a list of all the things you don’t like doing. Are you struggling with your course and more importantly, did you dislike it from the start? Why cling on to it, liberate yourself and move on to greener pastures! Are you perpetually pressurized and stressed out in your current office? Perhaps, it’s time you leave and seek out better terms of employment. You don’t owe anybody anything. You only owe yourself a good life and that isn’t possible without contentment. However, try to infuse passion into whatever you do. Not everything is a bed of roses at first but you need to make an effort to enjoy it!
Find A Hobby
Keep yourself occupied and erase all thoughts of negativity constantly by invading your skull as you lose yourself in the charisma of your brand new hobby. Pick up a paintbrush, dab it in a bottle of pint and splash it on canvas in sync to the erratic stimuli exuded by your brain. Pick up an instrument, whatever tickles your fancy. A harmonica, a tabla or a regular bass guitar! Learn it from a book or download a tutorial from the internet. Make your music, drown in the enticing chords and ward away all your troubles!
Don’t Watch, Do!
Stop admiring people on television, saying you wish you had what they had! Step into your shoes, roll up your socks and try to be one of them! Why envy professional swimmers when you yourself can dive into a swimming pool barely two kilometers from your home? What’s more, in a matter of days, you can be a pro and who knows, you might even end up winning a contest!
 Don’t Take What You Have For Granted
Everything you already own is precious and irreplaceable! Wishing for more only makes you an ungrateful wretch. Work and income is important but not at the cost of sidelining your family and friends. Make your family your top priority. Fine, your intentions of working harder towards a promotion might be entirely selfless as you dream of giving your family a luxurious life. However, you must remember that to your family, your valuable time is more desirable than your earnings.
Slow Down, Life is a Journey, Not a Race
They say, “Life is a race, be quick or you will be left behind”. They also say that “life consists of opportunities everywhere, you only need to widen your horizon and look closely”. If reading these two statements make you wonder that if life is full of unseen opportunities everywhere, what’s the harm in being left behind if that gives you happiness!

Bond  With Nature
While we spin around the rigmarole elicited by our daily drudgeries, we forget to pause and admire the beauty of nature. Nature’s always been around but the heavy demands of work and school overshadows this everlastingly captivating backdrop. Immersing our entirety into college or professional deadlines is not the solution to curbing our discontent. We can find infinite peace by simply bonding with nature. Perch yourself on a park bench, savor the breeze and fall in love with the sea. Dip your toes in the sea shore and resist the relentless current of the waves. Go fishing, rock climbing or plan a picnic! Nature is the best getaway! Every experience with nature is one that will be etched din your dwindling memory for years and years. 
Live Like You’re Dying
Of course, we cannot compromise on our future. However, we need to freeze and live in the moment as well. Just like how dwelling in the past and scrutinizing it is a pursuit in vain, meticulously sketching your future is not necessarily going to bring you happiness. What if you die in a car accident or of a dreaded disease? Your last thoughts will inevitably be, “damn, why did I waste all my life preparing for this exam and striving for that promotion when I’m going to die in the next minute? I haven’t even tried magic mushrooms! I’ve never seen the pyramids! Oh what a waste!” Hence, to ensure that we enjoy our lives, it is important that every once in a while, we learn to live like we’re dying!

Types Of Attitude

To get the obvious out of the way, attitude is not something a girl gives to you when you praise her before being friends with her. And attitude is definitely not something you show to the same girl after she accepts your compliments and now wants to be your friend. Attitude, in every sense of the word, has more connotations attached to it than just being used as a slang statement among the youth. Technically, attitudes are evaluative statements related to a person, object, or event; either favorable or unfavorable. They reflect our tenacious disposition to react and behave in a certain way towards people and situations. It’s our attitude through which the world sees us and forms opinions and attitudes of its own. And they are nothing but the branches formed out of the seeds that we only sowed based on our experiences, positive or negative. However, attitudes are not to be confused with personality types, for the latter are more rigid in nature. Attitudes, on the other hand, are elastic in nature and can be molded into a different one over time. So, don’t lose heart, for the ball lies in our own court when it comes to forming and controlling our attitudes. We just need to hold our own, stay open minded, and try not to give in to the criticisms of the world. We can’t control their attitude and mindset, but can definitely change ours. Remember, we don’t need to do it for anyone else, but only for ourselves.



Components Of Attitudes
Cognitive Component
It is the belief segment of an attitude. When someone forms an opinion or perception about any person, object, or situation; the cognitive component comes into play. The opinion may be favorable or unfavorable, positive or negative. For example, if a person says “Life is unfair”, he’s iterating his opinion about how he perceives life is.
Affective Component
It is the feeling segment of an attitude. When someone attaches his/her emotions to the opinion that has been formed about any person, object, or situation; the affective component comes into play. For example, if a person says “I hate the fact that life is unfair”, he’s connecting an emotion through hatred, to his opinion of life being unfair.
Behavioral Component
As the word itself suggests, it’s the behavior segment of an attitude. When a person attaches a desire to behave or act in a certain way based on the emotions he has attached to the opinion about any person, object, or situation; the behavioral component comes into play. For example, if a person says “I am going to hurt myself and others if life doesn’t stop being unfair to me”, he’s reflecting a desire to act by hurting himself and others based on how he perceives life to be and the emotions he has attached to this perception.
However, a negative attitude need not be always concluded through a negative reaction. Instead of stating “I am going to hurt myself and others if life doesn’t stop being unfair to me”, he could have said “The change needs to start from within myself if I am to make it fair”. As it was discussed, it is in our own hands of how we transform the negative attitude into positive.
Different Kinds Of Attitude
People react differently when confronted with different situations. For example, a person who reacts cheerfully when it comes to watching a movie may not react cheerfully when it comes to going out to the mall. That doesn’t mean that this person is not cheerful, but only justifies the first statement of this paragraph. Here’s a list of few of the attitude types that we’ve put together of what people’s actions and perceptions are.
  • Optimism
  • Pessimism
  • Confident
  • Interested
  • Independent
  • Jealous
  • Courteous
  • Cooperative
  • Considerate
  • Inferior
  • Happy
  • Frank
  • Respectful
  • Authoritative
  • Sincere
  • Persistent
  • Honest
  • Sympathetic
  • Realistic
  • Faithful
  • Flexible
  • Decisive
  • Trusting
  • Thoughtful
  • Determined
  • Loving
  • Hostile
  • Modest
  • Reliable
  • Tolerant
  • Humble
  • Cautious
  • Sarcastic
  • Helping
  • Hard Working
Summarizing everything said above, what we think, what we do, and what we feel is what forms our attitude. While sometimes knowledge and experience form our attitude, on other occasions it is based on our assumptions and beliefs.

Cure For Loneliness

In the dead silence of the night, it comes unannounced and stands at our doors. Without knocking, it invites itself in and stays with us. Quite like the ghost that nobody wants but has to be dealt with. Equally haunting, it comes and shakes us off the feet and leaves us questioning “is it really here?” We don’t believe it at first but feel the queerness building up around us. We think about telling somebody but decide against it. “Who’d believe us” we say to ourselves. We shed off the feeling but slowly, it starts to make its presence felt. Grabbing us by the throat and after giving a few scares, it leaves, but not without leaving us flabbergasted and with a feeling of wanting to break-free. It now comes even at the most unexpected hours and sits with us. With discomfort and a look of being scared, we try to carry on with our routine while repeatedly saying “nothing” to the question of “what’s wrong?” being asked by people around us. We still don’t know what to say. It now walks beside us in the crowd, invisible but leaving visible effects on our faces. Having lost the ability to add words to our thoughts, we start to feel deserted and abandoned, with no one for company but this invisible ghost. With hesitancy, we ask its name; “Loneliness”, it whispers back in the dead chill of the air. We want to get rid of this loneliness and be free but don’t know how. This article will tell how to cure loneliness.



Ways To Cure Loneliness
Crux Of The Matter
To begin with, dissect through the membranes of reason and try reaching the crux of it all. What allowed the feeling of being lonely to enter your surroundings to live with you? And what is it that makes this feeling turn hostile. Is it the recent breakup? Is it the splitting of your parents? Losing your best friend? Whatever it is, find it out.
Be A Busy Bee
Now that you’re one with the reason, try your best to not fall into that feeling again, by either changing the thought processes or by keeping yourself busy. Engage yourself in some household chore, put on the music and start dancing. Watch a movie, call up your friend, go out and meet some friends, or engage yourself in some social activity of sports or charity.
The Balancing Act
While the above step is helpful, it can also be addictive. Don’t allow yourself to be addicted to the social activities or meeting up friends every time you start to feel lonely. You’ll have to strike a balance between dealing with the loneliness internally and externally. Learn to smile even in the loneliest moments of the day. Without this ability and balance, you’ll only end up being a nuisance.
Blurt It Out
Try talking to a close friend or a family member and discuss your feelings. If being separated from your best friend is what brought you in this spot, then try mending things in between the two of you. Open your heart to him/her and let out all what you feel from deep inside. Sometimes, this is all you need — to be able to bring your feelings out in the open and freeing yourself from the curse.
Be Positive
Merge your surroundings with positivity, whether at home or office. A simple change of scenery can garner positive energy into the surrounding. You may also like to bring in some of that positivity into your thought processes. Take up yoga, or laughter yoga (even better) for that matter. Meditate regularly on the name of whoever you believe in. It’ll help for sure!